Wednesday 27 April 2016

The Mee Family


Grandmother and widow Jacqueline Mee lives in a 2-roomed mud brick house behind what used to be their larger and nicer family home.

In 2003 Jacqueline’s husband sadly passed away, ending his battle with HIV.  Unfortunately, without the regular income of her husband, Jacqueline struggled to financially support her family and pay for the upkeep of the larger house and so had to move to the smaller structure behind the family home. The mud brick home, which is just two rooms, could probably fit into a large sized sitting room and is where the family of seven still live today. 

Jacqueline shares this home with one of her daughters and five grandchildren. When I asked her how she manages to support her family she told me that they rely on rent from the larger house. However, at present this house is unoccupied and so there is no income. I asked again how they are managing to currently support themselves if there is no money coming in and Jacqueline just shrugged her shoulders and said “We’re not”.

She told me that they sometimes use the yard to grow vegetables and then sell tomatoes but I didn’t see any signs of vegetables growing that day.

Sadly, Jacqueline (65) and three of her grandchildren also have HIV and so need regular medication and a balanced diet to stay healthy.  Thankfully through our child sponsorship programme these children receive a hot nutritious meal at school everyday.  

I later learned from Gertrude (the office administrator at Janna School) that the staff also invite Jacqueline to school at lunchtime to receive a school meal. I was so encouraged by this – the staff at our partner schools really know the families in the community and we rely on this knowledge to help us in our work.

The Mee family are sometimes chosen to receive a food parcel from our alternative gift programme, which is a huge help and is always very gratefully received but this is not a long-term solution.  One of our challenges is how we help local people like the Mee family to support themselves.  Jacqueline explained that she cannot get work now, as she is too old.

Three of the five children living with her attend Janna community school and the other two children are currently in secondary school. This means more money needed for Secondary uniforms and basic school supplies.   Recently they have been told that they need to start paying K150 a month (around £15) for the water they have been using for years from a shared borehole.  

At the beginning of the interview Jacqueline told me “Life is difficult” and throughout the interview I was thinking how do we even begin to support families like these? The good news is that we have begun. The work we are doing does help to support these families and even if we sometimes feel like it’s just the tip of the iceberg, the generosity of our supporters is making a difference. The challenge for Beyond Ourselves is to continue working out how best to support families and the local communities that will leave a sustainable and lasting impact.

If you would like more information about supporting us please follow the links below

Child sponsorship programme

Donations – alternative gifts



Wednesday 20 April 2016

The Reverse Culture Shock After Visiting Zambia

I know I’m not the only person who lives their life between two different countries or even two different continents. I know that it’s not an unusual way to live in today’s world.

Yet, every Zambia trip is different and every return to the UK is unique.

This last trip was full of good things. I had lots of time to catch up with the Beyond Ourselves team out there, reviewing the highlights of the past term and looking ahead to the next one. We hosted a fantastic team of students from Cranleigh School. Plus there were unexpected meetings and partnership opportunities that were both exciting and inspiring for the future.

Yet, in the mix of celebrating and being thankful for all the great things happening in Zambia, there are still moments of frustration and heart-break.

When we have teams visit Zambia I always tell them about reverse culture shock and how returning to the UK (or their home country) might be difficult for them. So you’d think after seven years of travelling to and from Zambia things might be a little easier for me.

But how does one go from sitting on the rat eaten sofa of a child-headed household or hearing the wail of grief of a friend who has just heard the news that yet another family member has tragically died, to life back in North London?

There’s no simple answer.

Constantly having two cultures in your life, carrying two very different places and people in your heart is amazing but it isn’t always easy.

There’s no simple answer because it adds a beautiful complexity to life.

By Jodie

Monday 11 April 2016

Elizabeth's Three Month Zambian Experience


Being able to spend the last three months with the Beyond Ourselves Zambia team has given me some of the best and most important experiences of my life. Having never been away from home before for quite so long I was a little bit scared of suddenly living for three months on the other side of the world, but from the start I felt almost instantly at home and very welcomed by Dan and Melissa and their boys and then by the rest of the team as well. That welcome was then further extended by everyone at the three schools; Janna, Kawama and Greater Joy. 


A definite highlight of my time in Zambia has been getting to know certain members of the teaching staff at the schools. Everyone at all the schools has been so lovely to me but in particular I want to mention Teacher Ireen at Janna school, Teacher Metrude and Teacher Joyce at Greater Joy and Headteacher Mary and Ivy at Kawama school. All of these ladies made me laugh and cry and they have given me such great memories to take home with me and keep forever. Getting to spend time with all the staff at the schools has been a privilege and leaving them and saying goodbye was an emotional roller coaster for me. Mary and Ivy even tried to convince me to stay and sleep on the mattress in Mary’s office! 
               
                          

Another highlight has been the Grade 7 days and the dignity training days that were held during my time in Zambia. To know that the children of the three schools are being given support in sexual education as well as having it reaffirmed in their hearts.

that they are important and they have a purpose made me happy as they should all know that they are to be valued and are equal. It was also really lovely to see all three schools come together and to spend time with one another and play games as well as having a chance to have serious conversations.


Being in Zambia has had it’s lows as well as it’s highs and there were some heartbreaking moments that made me take a step back and remind myself that it’s charities like Beyond Ourselves that are making differences in places where the people aren’t as fortunate.

as others elsewhere in the world. Joining Melissa, Jan and Mike on home visits as well as taking part in work experience with the Cranleigh school team opened up my eyes to the hardships that people go through daily just to survive and it has made me look at some things I do and have in my life that I can change for the better.

                    

As I look back on my time in Zambia, I feel that my faith has been strengthened by witnessing others in the faith and seeing their love of God and their devotion to Him. I shall always remember the amazing praise and worship time that was had at inset days, training days and the grade 7 days and also remember the joy I felt listening to the amazing singing in both English and Bemba. 

Thank to Beyond Ourselves and the team, Dan, Melissa, Emily, Mike, Jan and Jodie and everyone I met along the way who helped make my time in Zambia so special and for giving me memories to remember forever.

by Elizabeth Flynn, our recent Gap volunteer.